Passing of Christine  / Debra Stefan (Daughter)

On Wednesday, April 18th 2007 just 5 weeks after our mother's passing, Christine Mary Huerta-Stenner passed out for the last time. 
Her memorial is http://christine-huerta-stenner.memory-of.com

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Mom, this is the letter you never received.  / Debra Stefan (First-born Daughter )
Mom,

This may be the last communication between us and I do hope that you will read it. I have waited for the day that we can mend the fence between us and time is getting shorter. Please know that I have never forgotten the good days we shared and will never forgive myself if I don’t try just one more time to make our peace.

My earliest childhood memory was how you called me your Lit’l Stinker. When you were mad at me I was so afraid that you didn’t love me anymore so I would ask, “Am I still your Lit’l Stinker?” You could never stay angry with me when I asked that. You would laugh and pick me up for a reassuring hug and kiss. I wish it were always that easy. We could have enjoyed so many more years than we did together.

We had so many good laughs together.

You were always known for you homemaking abilities, cooking, sewing, decorating, and gardening. Rick and I were given our first sense of responsibility when you assigned us chores and we earned privileges. It was a good time for Rick and for me as we were entering into teen years. You taught me sewing, cooking, and how to take care of a home and yard. Mario was an infant and Christine a toddler. We felt privileged to have these times.

You were my role model in that you set an example of a well-dressed feminine woman whose hair and makeup were always impeccable. I admired you for your beauty and independence.

One day I opened my underwear drawer and there was a training bra. Another time a garter belt was in there. It was exciting and mysterious.

Marie Smoak gave you two forties suits that you altered for me to wear to school in the 10th grade. I loved those suits.

I saved up my dog grooming money and bought you a mother’s ring with all of our 4 birthstones. I wanted you to have that from all of us. Belonging to a family was something I always wanted.

I always enjoyed how you and Aunt Mary got along and there was always fun between you.

Butch is there with Aunt Mary and I always thought I could be there for you. It is not too late, but it is up to you.

I know what it is like to never find the right man, to live my life alone. There is a similar pattern for us both; men are attracted to us for our independence, but we fear they will try to control us and we leave. It hasn’t worked out once for either one of us.

Remember when:
Saw Deep Throat together and laughed so hard we almost got kicked out of the theatre.
We moved a refrigerator together at the Lakewood house.
Got our jeweled sandals and had our toes done.
We drove to California and had our reunion at Butch’s house with Rick, Christine, Mario and the grandchildren you had never met, Billy, Eric, and Heather.

Mom, I so deeply regret our years of silence and want you to know that all I intended was to get you into rehab so we could enjoy the rest of our years together. That was all I wanted to do. Please forgive me for taking those actions and offending you.

Your Lit’l Stinker,
Debra
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An Angel by Your Side  / Angelica Grover (Twinless Twin)
May You Always Have
An Angel by Your Side

“May you always have an angel by your side
Watching out for you in all things you do
Reminding you to keep believing in brighter days
Finding ways for your wishes and dreams to come true
Giving you hope that is as certain as the sun
Giving you the strength of serenity as your guide
May you always have love and comfort and courage
And may you always have an angel by your side
Someone there to catch you if you fall
Encouraging your dreams
Inspiring your happiness
Holding your hand and helping you through it all
In all of our days, our lives are always changing
Tears come along as well as smiles
Along the roads you travel, may the miles be a thousand times more lovely than lonely
May they give you gifts that never, ever end: someone wonderful to love and a dear friend in whom you can confide
May you have rainbows after every storm
May you have hopes to keep you warm
And may you always have an angel by your side”

-Douglas Pagels
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Life is what we lived-----heaven is where we go in the passing  / Julia Brammer Mum 2. Angel Emily (passing through )
I never  knew you but reading about you... I seem to think of my grandmother....

Rest in peace. May the light of the sky in heaven show the family that is left be hide. To remember how wonderful life was when you were here. May their heart grow from this. May life of your angel live in them for life.

Remember ME
The times you need something I was there.
The times you need just to hear you will be ok.
The times you need just a hug from me.
Remember the good times and laugh and fun we
had family get togethers.
I know I left this world to go to heaven.
I will be with you. When you need me look in a
mirror. Close your eyes. Think of me. You will hear
me. Let no man take that from you. For I live in you.

Love
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